by The Fish

We love seeing happy parents playing in the water with their children in our Waterbabies classes. They put their faces together and sing songs, or hold each other while sliding down a pool slide, or float with their child on their stomach. It’s unbelievably cute to watch.

But besides being an awesome photo op, these moments of physical affection are crucial in forming a special bond between parent and child. The world is new to a baby, and physical touch is their primary means for communication. When they need to feel secure, the warm soothing of skin-on-skin contact tells them they are safe.

It is in these moments that children, before they can even articulate their feelings, begin to associate trust, provision and happiness with their parents. Did you ever wonder what makes an infant smile when they recognize your face? That is the result of a healthy bond being formed.

The first step for developing this physical bond is to learn to observe your children and respond to their needs. The quicker you observe their need and meet it affectionately, the easier they link you with their provision.

This bonding also has direct effects on child health. In the book Touching by Ashley Montagu, she notes that consistent physical contact can stimulate the cardiovascular, respiratory and gastrointestinal functions. Some studies indicate that infant massage techniques can enhance healthy growth and development of premature babies.

Parentingideas.org had these suggestions for incorporating physical affection into your daily routine:

• When you change their diapers, take some time to massage lotion across their stomach and back.
• Even if you are very busy with your daily routine, arrange some time for physical play.
• Don’t leave your infant in a crib alone for a long time unattended.
• Have your toddler sit on your lap while reading.
• Rather than always pushing your child around in a stroller, carry them across your chest in a sling when possible.
• Boys and girls alike need physical affection, yet young boys often receive less than young girls. Some parents fear that physical affection will somehow feminize a boy. It’s not true. Even physical activities like playful wrestling can promote the same benefits.  
• Swim together and let your skin touch theirs.